Sacred Union

One of the greatest ongoing burdens that human societies around the world have propagated throughout the generations is that we are supposed to naturally have the ability to find a perfect romantic and life partner.

The truth of the matter is that around the world, across vastly different cultures, societal structures and belief systems, finding one individual who can support all of your conscious and unconscious needs throughout the seasons of your life has always been a much tougher job than might be imagined - and divorce is a significant part of every society; particularly as societies become more open, more educated, and children are born later; as women’s status in society continues to rise; and as societies become more understanding of the protection of spousal rights within marriages.

The high prevalence of divorce, along with marriages that are not fully aligned and thriving, couples who stay together for various reasons - along with the large numbers of men and women who find themselves struggling to find an ideal or appropriate life partner - point to the fact that we are frequently not operating from a base of Sacred Self (full self-love and self-acceptance), so our ability to find a partnership to hold one another lovingly and joyously across decades has always been a challenge. That challenge can be overcome if both parties genuinely come to feel full and complete on their own, in the self-forgiveness and acceptance that underscores self-love. Then, there is the possibility to experience adaptive, supportive, uplifting, nonjudgmental, unconditional, and inspirational journeys through life together, and walking each other home and into the future, which is actually everyone’s home.

I have been extremely fortunate to experience this over the past forty years with my wife, Jian. Our life together has taught me more about love, partnership, patience, and belonging than I could ever have learned in theory.

But I share this here to encourage all of you readers that it absolutely IS possible - and it starts with loving yourself comprehensively. And once you can truly experience Sacred Self and Sacred Union, you can experience Sacred Play.

Try This: The Undefended Hello (a few minutes)

Choose one person you will meet today, and greet them with your armor down: soft eyes, an open chest, nothing to prove. When you see them, release any stories and judgements arise in you. Just allow them to be present with you, and realise that those thoughts are not you.

We meet others only as deeply as we dare to meet ourselves.